About cultural appropriation and intersectional feminism

Hi all. Today’s post is a little bit more serious, but I really wanted to speak up about this subject and be transparent with everyone, especially as I move forward as a pinup and fashion blogger.

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Picture credit: @marsupialpudding on Instagram.

You may remember seeing me talk about Pinup Girl Clothing a few times, most recently in last week’s post. It’s a brand that I was wholeheartedly supportive of for a while, but a lot of things started building up more and more, and recently, it came to a boiling point.

I don’t want to go into too much detail of what happened, but I’ll try my best to summarize it. A few weeks ago, PUG released a collection that was culturally appropriative and just plain wrong on a lot of levels. A few people tried speaking up, and were quickly banned from the Facebook group run by PUG for its customers.

So those people started a petition (which you can see here) in order to get PUG to admit to its mistakes and try to rectify them. Long story short, this did not work, a lot of hurtful and offensive things were said, and there has been no resolution to date.

Another source for more information can be found here.

I think there are a few things that need to be said about this whole fiasco.

  1. If your feminism isn’t intersectional, it isn’t feminism. What does this mean? It means supporting all women, regardless of what oppression they might face. Intersectionality is about the different types of oppression — gender, orientation, race, religion, disability, etc. — and what it means is simply that oppression affects us all in different ways, but the different types of oppression we all face intersect. For example: Alejandra is a woman of color, so she experiences racism. Olivia is bisexual, so she experiences homophobia. Marie is transgender, so she experiences transphobia. These are all forms of oppression, but the difference is how it affects each one of them. Alejandra may be a woman of color, but she’s straight. Olivia may be bisexual, but she’s cisgender. Marie may be transgender, but she’s white. These factors all play into how society views us and what our life experience will be, and as feminists, we must support each other and stand together in solidarity.
  2. That leads me to my second point, which is that certain privileged groups need to learn when to sit down and let the marginalized groups speak. If we’re talking about misogyny and you’re a man, don’t speak over the women. If we’re talking about LGBT+ rights and you’re straight, don’t speak over the queer person. If we’re talking about race and you’re white, don’t speak over the POC. If we’re talking about disabilities and you’re able-bodied and able-minded, don’t speak over the person with a disability. Asking questions is okay, discussion is okay, but the second you start to speak OVER the marginalized groups, you’re no longer an ally. Accept that being called out on your privilege is uncomfortable, and take that discomfort to learn how to be supportive of your fellow women.
  3. “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor” is a quote by Desmond Tutu that perfectly exemplifies the point I’m trying to make. If you see injustice, speak up. If you see racism, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, etc., SPEAK. UP. Nothing will ever change if we don’t do anything to change it, and we can’t be allies to our sisters if we don’t try to help in any way we can. Feminism isn’t passive — feminism is active, because it’s a type of feminism. Feminism doesn’t mean liking Lena Dunham and singing songs about girl power, it means standing with your sisters when they need your support, it means speaking up and calling people out on their oppressive actions, and it means actively working to dismantle the patriarchy.

Ladies, we have been brought up in a society that teaches us to internalize our misogyny, racism, homophobia, etc. We learn behaviors that are taught throughout society and we may realize they’re wrong but we don’t always realize we’re doing it. It takes a lot of work and a lot of thinking to unpack these internalized behaviors, but we absolutely must address them in order to move forward.

We’ve taken so many steps forward — let’s not move back. Let’s not forget how much work there is still yet to be done. Let’s keep working together in solidarity, to keep feminism alive and strong and to prove that women are strong as hell.

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Review: Wet N Wild Liquid Catsuit Matte Lipstick

When it comes to drugstore brands, Wet N Wild have long been one of my favorite brands out there. I often find myself perusing the aisles of Walgreens in search of my next lipstick or product to try out, and considering my love for their matte tube lipsticks, when they came out with liquid lipsticks, I knew I needed to get my hands on them!

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Of course, in trying to pick three colors “I didn’t already have,” I picked three colors I have exact dupes for. The good news is this means I can go through my lipsticks and find some potential dupes these could work for. Would anyone be interested in reading something like that?

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The first color we have here is Nice to Fuchsia. Full disclaimer: I haven’t actually worn this one, and I just opened it to take this picture. I didn’t want to wear it in case I wanted to sell/trade this since I know I have at least one or two colors just like it!

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Next, we have Berry Recognize. I wore this one to work one day and I was very pleasantly surprised at how good the quality is! It’s very pigmented and you can easily get full opaqueness with just one or two light coats, it fully dries to matte, it barely transfers AND it’s very, very comfortable. It hits all the liquid lipstick checkmarks!

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Lastly, we have Give Me Mocha, which is a beautiful dark nude and would look amazing on deeper skin tones! Of course, I already have at least two lipsticks that look exactly like this, but I was very impressed with how it wore.

Overall, I’m really happy with these lipsticks and I’ll definitely be going to look for a few more colors! At this point in my life, I have almost every color of lipsticks I could wear, so I end up with a lot of really similar colors and then I wear the same ones every single week, so I know I need to mix it up. Maybe it’s time to bring back the 30 days of lipstick challenge I did when I first started my blog?

P.S. Sorry these pictures are so bad! I swear they looked better on my camera and to be honest… I’m too lazy to edit them.

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Sunday in the park with lovebirds

Is there anything better to do on a nice Sunday afternoon than dress up and go to Epcot with a good friend?

Well, probably, but going to Epcot is always a fun time anyway.

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You may remember Lauren from my post about going to Universal two weeks ago, and she’s back again (remember what I was saying about not being able to get rid of her?) for another park day, this time in a different park.

Lauren and I went to Epcot for one of the last weekends of the Festival of the Arts, a new festival that started this year and was all about, well, the arts! Compared to Food & Wine or Flower & Garden, it was definitely small in comparison, but it was actually really good and we had a great time eating our way around the world!

We couldn’t really decide on a cohesive theme this time around so it was vaguely Valentine’s Day themed… sort of? What’s funny is that we ended up totally switching outfits, I had originally picked my red Harley dress to wear and Lauren had brought a pink one, but had this Trashy Diva dress for me to try on and I liked it so much, I wore it to the park. This is the Gia dress in the Lovebirds print and I can already tell it’s going to be my gateway into the Trashy Diva world…

As for the rest of my outfit: hat is vintage and purchased from Etsy, purse is vintage and purchased at a vintage market, the ribbon is just from Wal-Mart (I bought it for a different outfit last year) and my shoes are the Jessica Simpson Mandalaye flats, purchased from Amazon.

Lauren, on the other hand, ended up wearing my Harley! She’d never tried one on, so I told her she should when she got to my house and she liked it so much that she ended up wearing it to the park, instead of the pink vintage shirtwaist dress she had originally planned to wear.

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Of course, we then set out to do a mini photo shoot in the UK pavilion (AKA my second favorite, after Canada!) to take advantage of the pretty backdrops and the nice lighting.

The lipstick I’m wearing here is Bésame Cosmetics 1969 Dusty Rose lipstick, which is quickly becoming my favorite shade and I need to get the full size lipstick ASAP. Look how beautiful it looks!

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Look at Lauren, posing like a pro. When we first went to Universal, she was saying she didn’t really know how to pose but she definitely learned more quickly than I did! It took me quite a few tries to figure out what worked for me. Oops.

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Of course, I couldn’t let the blog post end without a weird picture of my face, right? Right.

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Lauren’s dress is from Pinup Girl Clothing and she’s wearing Bésame Cosmetics 1941 Victory Red lipstick (which is coincidentally my favorite lipstick ever).

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We had a great time eating and drinking our way around the world, and I do wish we could have gone one more time! Sadly, the festival ends this weekend and we just didn’t have time to make our way out there again.

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Would You Be My Galentine? February 2017 Boxycharm

Happy belated Galentine’s/Valentine’s Day everyone! I hope everyone had a great day with their family, friends and significant others alike. I just spent the day at work, trying really hard not to cry about all the adorable stories (and video!) we published in honor of Valentine’s Day. It was hard, let me tell you.

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It seemed fitting to post my Boxycharm unboxing today, though I had originally planned something else for this week’s beauty post which I ended up rescheduling for next week. After all, the theme is Galentine’s! Of course I had to post it this week.

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Let’s start, shall we? First up in this box is arguably the most exciting product for many people: a full-size Dr. Brandt Microdermabrasion Age Defying Exfoliator. This is a product of which many people have received countless samples over the years (I’ve received at least 3-4) and the full-size of this retails for a whopping SEVENTY NINE DOLLARS!!

I haven’t decided yet if I want to keep mine or not — it’s not a product I particularly loved in the past and I already have an exfoliator I love from LUSH, but we’ll see.

Then we have the Juice Beauty Reflecting Gloss in the color Fig. I’ll be honest, this one went straight to the sell/trade pile.

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Up next is this adorable duo of eye brushes from Royal & Langknickel, the OMNIA Eye Kit Brush Duo. They are shader and detail brushes (top is shader, bottom is detail) and I was very happy to see these in my box because a) brushes, b) pretty brushes!

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Last but certainly not least might be the most exciting part of the box for me. Boxycharm was kind enough to send us a small Z-palette created exclusively for Boxycharm — and two Makeup Geek shadows! These two are the colors Creme Brulee (left) and Bitten (right), both in the matte finish. I absolutely love them both and I was very excited to see these in the box.

So that’s it for this month — can’t wait to find out what comes in next month’s box!  What did you get in this month’s box? Did you do anything exciting on V-Day (or G-Day)? Let’s chat in the comments below!

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Farewell Artegon, hello Seville

There are lots of things Orlando is known for — Disney, Universal, SeaWorld, a terrible interstate highway, a 16-year-old building that’s never been completed — but one thing that gets overlooked frequently, due to our booming tourism industry, is the more unique places around town.

Ask any Orlandoan, and they’ll proudly tell you about all their favorite essential Orlando places (none of which are a theme park). There are plenty of hole-in-the-wall restaurants, amazing bars and unique shopping experiences — and Artegon Marketplace was at the top of that list for this Orlandoan.

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Artegon was a mall, but not your run-of-the-mill kind of mall. It’s Orlando’s “anti-mall,” an artisan marketplace located in the midst of tourism central (AKA I-Drive). It featured cute little shops of every kind, an indoor rope course, food trucks by the entrance on certain days, and so much more.

It was a hang out for my friends and I — we’d get food from Fuddruckers, a piña colada served in a pineapple and go watch movies. Sadly, Artegon closed its doors on January 26.

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To say farewell, my friend Mo and I went for one final hurrah to take pictures, because seriously, you’ve never seen a mall better suited to photographs. In order to properly honor Artegon’s colorfulness, I wore my Red Seville Gina dress from The Pretty Dress Company.

I saw this dress in a production of West Side Story late last year, and I’d been obsessed with it ever since. I couldn’t resist temptation and I had to snatch it up, and let me tell you — I haven’t regretted it for one second since.

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The Gina dress features a flattering scoop neckline, cap sleeves, a full, pleated skirt and pockets! While they pockets aren’t too big, they’re big enough to fit a phone (provided that it’s smaller than an iPhone 6). The skirt is so, so full (it twirls beautifully!) and it can comfortably fit a petticoat. I’ve been obsessed with my vintage lace petticoat from Malco Modes, which isn’t very full but it gives the dress a nice silhouette.

I wanted to bring out the pink in the dress, so I chose a light pink vintage hair scarf tied with a nice big bow on top. For shoes, I went with my trusty Jessica Simpson flats (which, as a matter of fact, are really worn out on the sides and I need to replace them soon).

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I forgot a necklace, but I accessorized with my new white crystal mermaid earrings, which I got from my friend Kate! Seriously, go check out her etsy, you will undoubtedly find something you’d love — there’s something for everyone!

Mo’s outfit consists of two Amazon pieces — in fact, the skirt may look familiar!

I saved my favorite pictures for last — Mo’s artistic vision made for some great shots, and these were definitely a highlight for me. I love how well you can see the detail of the dress in the shot on the left, and I love how candid the one on the right looks.

I’ll definitely miss Artegon, but I’m glad I got to experience it as much as I did. It’ll be hard, but here’s to hoping whatever occupies that space next lives up to Artegon’s legacy.

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Hogwarts house unity and new friends

A few weeks ago, I had the joy of taking a new friend to the Wizarding World for her first visit, and let me tell you, there isn’t anything more magical than seeing someone’s face when they see Diagon Alley or the Hogwarts Castle for the first time ever.

You may know I’m a huge Harry Potter fan, so when I found out Lauren had never ever been to Wizarding World, I quickly offered to take her.

She probably thought I was weird, considering we’d never even met and here I was offering to give her a free ticket and guided tour to WWoHP, but alas, there are few things I love more than sharing the magic of that first visit with someone.

Of course, when we made plans for this adventure, one of the first things we decided on was that we were dressing according to our respective houses. See, Gryffindors and Slytherins CAN get along!

For my Gryffindor princess outfit, I knew I wanted to wear my beautiful Gryffindor flower crown, courtesy of my good friend Hayley from Magical Ribbons. Her work is absolutely beautiful, and this flower crown is hands down one of my favorite things ever!

And well, of course I have enough colors in my wardrobe to represent my house! The cardigan, skirt and shoes are all from Amazon, the top and belt are from Pinup Girl Clothing, and my petticoat is vintage Malco Modes! (I know. I love it.)

Lauren’s top is from Jones New York (she thinks), her skirt is Collectif, her petticoat is Malco Modes and her shoes are from Jessica Simpson (same ones I have, in fact). The wand, of course is from Ollivander’s.

We certainly got a lot of looks that day, but we were too busy having fun and getting to know each other to care! I can safely say Lauren loved butterbeer and the parks, and she’s very close to deciding to buy an annual pass.

I also can’t seem to shake her, we haven’t stopped talking since that day!

(Just kidding, I love talking to her.)

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Zoya 4 Free nail polish haul

Hi everyone! As you probably guessed from the title, this post is all about the newest additions to my nail polish family.

Last year, I found out from Stash Matters about this awesome sale from Zoya where you got four nail polishes for just the cost of shipping. Which, okay, it’s $15, but still a good sale considering these retail for $10 to $12 each. You can see the ones I got last year here.

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This year, I really wanted to take advantage of the sale, so I got eight colors for $30, which isn’t a bad deal at all, if you really think about it!

Front row, from left to right: Amal, Marnie, Lake and Kelly.

Back row, from left to right: Natty, Leah, Normani and Jana.

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Kelly is described by Zoya as “a rich gray shade with soft purple and blue undertones.”

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Lake is described as “a softened blue that gives the effect of serene water.”

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Marnie is described as “deep warm plum cream.”

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Amal is described as “a classic crimson red with a ruby red pearl fleck in the traditional MatteVelvet finish.”

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Natty is described as “a smoky deep steel blue with an opaque cream finish.”

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Leah is described as “a lavender tinged taupe cream in the exclusive Satin finish.”

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Jana is described as “a medium nude putty creme with grey, mauve and purple tones.”

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Normani is described as “sable mauve cream.”

And yes, before you say anything… these two look exactly the same. In my defense, they look somewhat more different on the website, and I had to put in two separate orders to do the sales twice… I know, it’s stupid.

(To be completely honest, I’m not entirely sure which is which in these pictures.)

Did anyone else take advantage of the sale? Let me know what you got!

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