On marriage equality, LGBT+ rights, and why I can’t stop crying

If you live under a rock or just haven’t paid attention, you might have missed that the Supreme Court ruled in favor of marriage equality, making it now legal in every state for two people, regardless of gender identities, to get married. This is huge news, and if it’s something you take issue with, kindly unfollow me right now, because this is not the place for you.

On that note, today has been a rollercoaster of a day. I’m running on three hours of sleep and I’ve been emotional, happy, sad, angry, happy again, and cried through most of it. But now, I just want to be happy. I want to celebrate and revel in the knowledge that one day, I’ll be able to get married in the U.S. and that marriage will be valid and recognized across the whole country.

It’s a huge deal, it’s great news and a historic moment. It’s a step in the right direction, but there’s still work left to do. I don’t want to elaborate on this too much because I really do want to just celebrate right now, but don’t forget that there is more to LGBT+ rights than marriage equality, and our fight isn’t over yet.

When I was a kid, no one told me it was okay to be queer. No one said to me that if I wanted to like boys, girls, both, or neither, any of those options were okay. So I struggled a lot with my sexuality and didn’t fully come to terms with it until I was 20. But now that I’m 23, I don’t question it anymore, because I know I am and always will be gay.

What happened today means that other little girls who might go through what I went through will also grow up in a more accepting country. Children born today will never have known a country where marriage equality wasn’t legal. And every day, we’re getting just a little bit closer to where we’re meant to be.

I wish I could go back and save myself the years of anguish, of trying to make myself someone I wasn’t and fit into a box that wasn’t for me. I can’t, but I will sleep a little better tonight knowing that the world just got a little better, a little happier, and a little more colorful.


16 thoughts on “On marriage equality, LGBT+ rights, and why I can’t stop crying

  1. I am so incredibly happy for you and everyone else as this effects us all! America has finally made the right choice on this issue and that is something all American citizens should be proud of! I have always taken for granted my ability to marry the person I love, but today has really put it into perspective for me! Although I have always been straight, I have a very strong opinion on relationship equality and that we should all be able to love who we want to. This was a wonderfully written post Valentina and i found it really moving. Sending you lots of love and happy wishes for future weddings! ❤️

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  2. Yesterday was a such an amazing day! Hooray for our Supreme Court and for our president’s beautiful speech!!
    I love that my family and friends have the same rights today as our straight family and friends.
    Love wins!! Haters need to tuck their tail and practice tolerance :0)
    Thanks for your post!


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